No one wants advice — only corroboration — (maybe/maybe not)

Today everyone has an opinion and advice — sometimes as strong as tartar sitting on our molars.

Frankly speaking, isn’t that always been the case.

Maybe the only difference is that right now everyone’s opinion and advice are right up in your face. Sometimes, obnoxiously so. In fact, you don’t need to venture beyond the territorial periphery of your social media accounts to validate this hypothesis.

But actually, how did we manage to become so cocksure to belch advice at the drop of a hat? …

The inevitable conditioning of modern lifestyle makes sure that we are not even aware of something as omnipresent as the humming of an air conditioner — background noise of low intensity — until it stops.

We have somehow learned to live with a certain level of constant discontent, unease, and fear of uncertainty.

As a consequence, all forms of fear — anxiety, tension, stress, worry — has become the socially acceptable form of mental illness.

It has succeeded in desensitizing us to such an extent that we never gather the courage to find out the real reasons behind that…

Lying is difficult because we have to overcome our fear of getting caught. Thus, a majority of us are afraid to tell poker-faced lies to others. But when it comes to deceiving ourselves — we have somehow mastered the craft.

Humans are susceptible to self-deception because they have emotional attachments to their beliefs. They start identifying themselves with their set of beliefs. One deceives oneself to trust something that is not true as to better convince others of that truth. …

Than aspiring things that are bright — A Poem

There is more to life than aspiring things that are bright

Your perception is skewed by the limitations of your own sight

Don’t get obsessed with your vision of those things that seems bright

Achievement of success is just a mere illusion of hollow might

Accumulating things that you don’t need will burden your life

There is more to life than aspiring things that are bright

You are not a clock that needs to be always right

You can spot the signs if you are willing to make your mind quiet

You can live your purpose by pursuing things that…

First, you need to decode the data compression trick of your brain

THE STORAGE SPACE inside our brain is limited by the size of our skull.

Approximately eighty billion brain cells compressed inside our skull are the only space to store everything that we see, smell, read, hear, think, taste, feel, and experience during our lifetime.

As an evolutionary way to manage its limited resource, the brain has developed a data compression trick — the story.

THE MIND LOVES telling stories; in fact, it is quite a task to make it stop churning stories.

All-day, every day, it tells you stories about who you are, what you’re like, what you should be…

Enjoy the joyful moments in your life

The most important commodity in the current knowledge economy is no longer money or other physical resources. Rather, it is an individual’s time and attention.¹ Due to limited time, attention has become a limited resource. Those who are able to manage and deploy this limited resource stand a better chance at succeeding in the knowledge economy.

Whereas technology allows us to access an unprecedented amount of information at lightning speed, the same technology is the reason we’re often overwhelmed² by the deluge of this information. …

Being authentic doesn’t solve all your problems

THE FOLK concept of true selves is way too implicit in our everyday talk about “who you really are,” “being yourself,” and “finding yourself.” These phrases imply the existence of a fundamental layer of a person’s identity that defines them as unique individuals.

In fact, we’re often bombarded with this new age advice to “be yourself.”

Adam Grant wrote¹ in the New York Times that “we are in the Age of Authenticity, where ‘be yourself’ is the defining advice in life, love, and career.” …

Can we trust the cumulative wisdom of the online crowd?

Based on the extraordinary number of hours spent by me in watching movies of every possible language and genre, my wife used to have no problem relying on my cinematic viewing experience to select movies to watch on the weekend.

I was supposed to be her trusted and reliable source for movie recommendations — or so I thought till she started checking the ratings of the movie online — IMDb. Not only that, it hurts to know she has now grown more comfortable believing a group of strangers on the internet rather than a movie connoisseur like me.

Now the…

There are no formulae to replicate success.

Anyone selling you the recipe of the success formulae needs to be taken as seriously as any of those stock market forecasters seen on television because any formula for success that might work once stops working as soon as it becomes widely known.

Despite this, there is no dearth of people selling you the precise concoction of habits and behaviors that could guarantee you a definite success in any of the chosen fields.

In fact, online experts and marketers are notorious for doling out ridiculous advice that begins with the phrase “everyone should.” …

How to prepare yourself not only for competition but for life too

Within 22 seconds, I lost my gold medal during my first ever interschool Kumite competition.

I was thirteen and shattered.

It took me more than a couple of minutes to process the defeat.

However, it didn’t take more than a couple of seconds for my 13-year-old brain to conveniently blame the defeat on my relative inexperience and most importantly, our Sensei who was absent during the entire competition.

As a matter of principle, our Sensei never used to accompany us for any of the tournaments.

And we always felt very strongly about his choice of not joining us.

It used…

Piyush Kamal🎖

Published Author Who Loves to Play at the Intersection of Cognitive Psychology, Neuroscience, & Philosophy — Sharing the Slice of Wisdom Not on Paper but Screen

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