During the early days of my career, I had this habit of solving people’s problems, especially those close to my influence area. This was a habit I developed while growing up, thinking this was the best way to support friends, colleagues, and subordinates who asked for my help.
I always felt that helping people get better at doing their job was a great thing to do until I was proved wrong.
I realized that this habit of mine was making me extremely tired in the long run because I was always racking my brain to come up with solutions and ideas. …
Our world experience¹ is not only affected by what is ‘out there’ (the data our senses collect) but also by the structure of our sense organs and our minds.
Perception is really a two-step process involving:
As a result, what we see affects what we hear, what we hear affects how we feel, and how we feel affects what we perceive.
For instance, imagine sitting in a stationary train. As you gaze out of the window, the train on the next track starts to move forward. For a brief moment, as you see it glide away, you may feel as if you’re moving backward, even though you’re stationary all the time. …
# Starve Yourself of Bad Options
I don’t know about you, but I’ve tried this for last, so many decades that it has lost all the charm it used to hold for me back in the days.
Probably because gaining back those lost pounds on more than a couple of occasions has made it look like an exercise in futility.
It’s Monday afternoon. A shower of artificial lights making its presence felt across every possible corner of my office space creates an illusion that I am sitting right in the middle of the Milky Way. My sleep-deprived eyes, though, don’t fall for this elaborate deception.
As a result, I need an hourly dose of lukewarm liquid doled out through a machine called a coffee dispenser to keep my eyes wide and awake because it went through the torture of four hours of the Netflix marathon last night.
I am holding two paper cups of machine-made lukewarm liquid while navigating through the impossible maze of my workplace. In this workplace, all the souls, including me, seem to have no problem trading our freedom with some stupid amount of money that gets transferred to our bank accounts. …
The inevitable conditioning of modern lifestyle makes sure that we are not even aware of something as omnipresent as the humming of an air conditioner — background noise of low intensity — until it stops.
It’s a clear indication we have somehow learned to live with a certain level of constant discontent, unease, and fear of uncertainty.
Consequently, all forms of fear — anxiety, tension, stress, worry — have become a socially acceptable form of mental illness.
The fear manifested in all its forms has succeeded in desensitizing us to such an extent that we never gather the courage to find out the real reasons behind this constant unease. …
We often have this tendency to see things in binaries.
Right/Wrong, Good/Bad, Wife/Girlfriend, Life/Death, you get the drift!
But what makes these binaries such an irresistible proposition?
For starter, it’s comparatively less taxing to deal with the option of this and that. And for the rest of the minorities, going beyond the binaries makes for a decent trap to feel more like an intellect.
That’s why, perhaps, when it comes to tagging our emotions, we end up identifying them at the extreme end of the spectrum.
As a result, there is a tendency to presume that the opposite of Joy is sadness. …
Let’s admit it, for most of us, the initial news of lockdown seemed like a much-needed break from a life of routine.
You got a paid holiday. The only dampener is that everyone else, too, is entitled to get the same perks. Never mind.
Freedom from the ordeal of the daily commute. Work from home.
Online meetings where you could live the dream of having your favorite drink in a coffee mug wearing your comfy boxers.
Afternoon siesta after Netflix.
What else could you have asked for?
It had all the promise of a fully paid grand homestay. …
This is not the planet in which any of my ancestors or I was born.
It doesn’t look anymore the same again.
For the last couple of weeks, everything had turned weird.
And I mean everything!
A whole lot of things and people have gone missing.
People are missing from a crowded place.
Pollutants are missing from the air.
Persistent noise is missing from the neighborhood.
People are missing in the parks.
Pile of garbage is missing from the neighborhood corner.
For some weird reason, humans have decided to stay home.
Even a very few of them who are venturing outside is covering their face with a mask. …
“Akrasia” — The first time I heard the word, I thought it would be one of that small country out of 195 nations that I didn’t care to remember during my geography lessons. But of course, I was wrong. It turns out to be a word. “Akrasia” has Greek origin & means “lacking command (over oneself).”
In other words, it means — Things that we should be doing, but still, we don’t.
After knowing the exact meaning of this exotic-sounding country, I don’t think I would prefer to have its citizenship. …
Fear is a fundamental emotion that is wired deeply inside each of us.
This emotion has successfully managed to evolve itself to protect organisms against any perceived threat to their integrity or existence.
My first recollection of this emotion goes back to my childhood when I was about four years old. I, along with my gang of tiny tots, found our way onto the terrace of a seven-story newly constructed building.
The boundary of the terrace was still not erected completely, so we had an amazingly clear top view from a height that was refreshingly new to those tiny legs.
First time in my life, I could feel a bittersweet tingling sensation right at the center of both my feet. …