Envy is nothing but a feeling of inadequacy. It’s the fundamental nature of inadequacy that makes you feel jealous. If you are feeling adequate in your current life-situations, then there doesn't exist any space for jealousy. But how many of us can claim to be living a life of adequacy?
There exist a widespread belief that people driving a Lamborghini or people flying in private jet or people possessing multiple holiday homes are somehow blessed to have an extraordinary life – a life worth emulating. And in case that extraordinary life is lived by someone who is known to us, then it becomes impossible to resist the emotion of jealousy, where you seriously think, had you not been a victim of some random & unfair circumstances, nobody could have stopped you from living that extraordinary life.
There is a school of thought that doesn't shy away from advocating the presence of this emotional feeling in life. For them, an adequate amount of jealousy can prove to be a very powerful springboard to leapfrog in life. It is believed to act as dependable form of a motivator.
There is a very bright possibility that you might end up subscribing to this school of thought and succeed in getting an idea of what you want before you are confident enough to articulate it as your goal.
Although I don’t subscribe to this school of thought, yet at times I have found myself being jealous of people who do have the luxury of creating a working life where autonomy, mastery, creativity, and purpose combine to create a unique symphony. These select few are blessed to engage themselves in activities that primarily requires them to play according to their strengths.
The maximum amount of time devoted by them towards their preferred choice of work varies between 4–5 hours daily. And even while working, they seem to be rarely pushing themselves into any work-related stressful situation.
Since my current job profile doesn't allow me to replicate those ideal conditions, the feeling of inadequacy succeeds in leaving its scar on my daily performance. As a result, there have been occasions when I have felt jealous of all those people who are lucky and brave enough to live a life where work is nothing but a canvas to express their creative freedom.
But the moment I decided to dig a little deep into my occasional feeling of jealousy, I could muster more courage to stare back at it without being guilty of carrying that pejorative emotion. The primary reason why I got envious of these kinds of people because they were brave enough to make a life choice where the work constituted just a small but significant part of their daily existence. They were never under any pressure to stretch that small part of their life to make it whole.
I am genuinely impressed by these people who don’t think that their identity is shaped solely by the work that they chose to do for their livelihood. For them, there is more to life than work. But that doesn't mean they are careless about their work. In fact, their productivity is inversely proportional to the amount of time they are willing to devote to their chosen area of work.
If you are willing to give it a thought- the idea about work as a source of livelihood remains more or less so pervasive that we don’t even realize there is another way to look at the very concept of work. The nature & purpose of work defined through the lens of individual freedom has a potential to challenge the conventional definition of work, yet we find the majority of people(including myself) shying away from exploring the potential of all those possibilities.
Even though I may find myself in a better position to appreciate the opportunity of exploring the possibilities, it doesn't make much of a sense to replicate the exact nature of work performed by these people. It takes time, patience, introspection, and relentless experimentation to identify the precise kind of work that could make painting the canvas of life effortless.
Your desire to live someone’s else life is nothing but an illusion created by you in the hope that you may somehow end up succeeding in finding your life’s calling. But deep within even you are aware of the inherent stupidity of this proposition. Your fear to identify & accept your uniqueness wrapped around the visible signs of weakness is quite capable of deteriorating your vision.
Once you correct your vision to see beyond the depth of your weakness, you start seeing beyond the vulnerability of using jealousy as a springboard to reach where you wish to arrive in your life.